Queer Life

Every Queer Person Should Learn How to Fight

On its surface, Brazilian jiu-jitsu was not a sport that I belonged in. To say that it is macho is an understatement.

Sep 21, 2022
Reflecting on the Challenges of Telling Femme, Black, Queer Stories

In writing for TV, I’m committed to doing what I can to wave the Black-femme-boy flag. We deserve to be heroes.

Sep 13, 2022
Miss Scarlet, in the Lounge, with the Rope: What Clue Taught Me About Gender

Being a girl meant minimizing myself and my needs, but Miss Scarlet embodied glamour, power and possibility in an unapologetically femme package.

Aug 31, 2022
This Cartoon Will Help You Rethink Your Definition of Intimacy

The show went a step further than other cartoons of the time: It showed young women intentionally building a life together.

How Perfume Gives Me Peace in My Genderfluidity

There is no opposite to reconcile. I’ve been both bride and groom, loved and lived as both, since both lived in me.

Aug 04, 2022
Patti Smith Defined Cool in Lesbian Bars of the ’80s

I pinballed between circles of lesbians but settled nowhere. Gorgeous women were everywhere but always out of reach in San Francisco’s mesmerizing haze.

May 26, 2022
On Running Shirtless While Trans

Maybe I was tired of hiding and being afraid. Maybe I was just overheating and my nipples were starting to chafe. Maybe it was all or none of the above.

May 10, 2022
It’s More Than Just “Two Boys Kissing”

David Wojnarowicz captured the chaos of living as a gay man in the 1980s and early 1990s with HIV overshadowing everything we did and felt.

May 02, 2022
Starting Testosterone During Ramadan Led Me to the Sacred in My Trans Self

Before testosterone, few people ever saw me cry. Now tears come in hot floods, as though some tender, unlanguaged creature has surfaced inside me.

Nov 24, 2021
Lessons On Camp and Queerness from ‘American Horror Story’

Madison Montgomery never stops performing. She is at once person and persona.

Nov 04, 2021
The Night a Grieving Phantom in the Everglades Changed My Life

The land that was previously seen as harsh and brutal by colonial forces was actually a site of survival, new life, and renewal.

Confessions of a Little Mermaid

The taste of silence and salt heavy on my tongue.

Matthew Shepard Bought an Engagement Ring

I knew about Matt’s legacy, but I didn’t know much about his life.

Oct 05, 2021
Coming Out, as Told by Florida Wildlife

Can you still hear us? We’re drowning the state in our chirps tonight if you’d care to sing along.

Jun 22, 2021
How Writing My Young Adult Novel Helped Me Reclaim the Queer Girlhood I Lost

The years I suppressed my queerness are a loss that I'm exploring and grieving—if only through fiction.

Jun 17, 2021
Halloween 1998, Old Man with Old Wife

Obviously, I cannot be the old woman. Obviously, I cannot be the woman.

Jun 15, 2021
Building the Trans Gaze For Myself

Why does my assigned sex have to limit me at all?

May 24, 2021
Learning to Hate Yourself in Los Angeles

They told me, “Gay people are all in WeHo. There are no gay people in Inglewood.” To be gay was not only to be Other, but to be white.

May 05, 2021
How Clea DuVall Helped Me Find Queer Joy

But I’m a Cheerleader gave me something to hold onto: for the first time, I had seen queer love and community.

Apr 14, 2021