People

Second Place Language

According to people I met back home, my face didn’t match my voice.

Sep 15, 2022
Uncovering the Secrets of My Chromosomes Through Genetic Testing

I couldn’t fight off the sense that there is a certain absurdity to getting tested for a disease for which there is currently no cure.

Sep 08, 2022
How I Learned That Work Is Not Your Family

Years spent in cultlike workplaces under cartoonishly incapable bosses has spooked me from going back to the office.

Sep 07, 2022
The Two Sides of American Health Care

This dichotomy in American health care is well-known to patients with chronic illness.

Aug 29, 2022
Learning the Limits of Nonviolence

Trying to reason with someone hell-bent on eradicating your existence is not only futile but also impossible.

Aug 24, 2022
On Houses, Ghosts, and “Good Bones”

When we moved out of our house, I wondered: How much of our presence is still there? How much do we haunt the place?

Aug 11, 2022
Buying My Girlhood Is Putting Me In Debt

Each time I used my credit card, I rationalized my ballooning debt by imagining a future in which I was satisfied with my transition.

Aug 01, 2022
Why Wearing a Mask Makes Me Feel Powerful

I’ve actually been masking long before the Covid pandemic.

Jul 28, 2022
Always Check the Bathrooms

Whenever I’ve found someone passed out in a bathroom as a bartender, it’s because they’ve well exceeded their personal limit with alcohol. I also can’t help but think it’s because there’s been too little of something else.

Jul 27, 2022
The Tortilla Type of Hurt, How One Broke My Heart

What I didn’t say was how much of home each of those packs brought with them.

Jul 21, 2022
I Thought I’d Never Find Love After My Dissociative Identity Disorder Diagnosis

When you love someone with dissociative identity disorder, you are not building one healthy relationship—you are building many.

Jul 19, 2022
The Price of Admission for Fat Bodies

Anyone who has lost and subsequently gained weight back can tell you that you will be treated differently in real, material ways. The difference is at once alluring and painful.

Jul 14, 2022
Small Patches of America: When America’s Suburban Romance Is Undone

In other words, the suburbs are equated with whiteness because they were designed to be.

Jun 30, 2022
Falling: A Comic

I found it freeing: to accept—instead of fear—gravity, to savor that brief float before the fall.

Jun 27, 2022
Medical Care Needs More Space for Patient Narratives

I want medicine to meet me where I am, not where it wants me to be.

Why I’m Still Dreaming of a Brown Percy Jackson

BIPOC kids can be the heroes, the fighters who push back against impossible odds. We, too, should be the stuff of legends and prophecies.

Jun 14, 2022
Fostering

As a queer person, I’d had no role models growing up, had to stumble through every relationship, learning how to love as best I could. Dog fostering was a kind of parallel crash course.

May 31, 2022
In a Time of Mass Mourning, Grief Stories Are a Lifeline

In our constrained culture where public, raw grief is not socially acceptable, I fear that grief stories are being asked to do too much.

May 24, 2022
On Hiking Alone

Here is my official statement on why I do most things alone: I am a lone wolf. I am comfortable with myself. Here is another explanation: There is something about me that is fundamentally unlikeable.

May 24, 2022